The typical dinner date gets old fast and even worse is a movie date where you're both trapped in the dark beside strangers with little to no time to talk to each other.
By the way, don't do movie dates. Go to the movies together every now and then but never consider it a real date. In my book it doesn't qualify lol.
Its the job of the man pursuing you to come up with cool dating ideas but you can help out by sharing some fun ways to date as well. Don't over play your role though as some men will sit back and watch you plan all the dates.
Dating should be fun. The process can be daunting at times so you must find ways to make it easier and more pleasant. Sometimes doing the standard things in an atypical way can make dating an enjoyable experience and help with the bonding process to bring you closer to your ideal mate.
Here are some unconventional approaches to dating that can make things more fun and exciting.
Learn a New Language Together
If you both have an interest in learning a new language, consider including language exchange in your daily communication. If its just you, pitch the idea to him and peak his interest to learn together. It could feel like a chore to him, but try. If he's not feeling it let it go and don't force him into it.
This will increase bonding and it brings out the humorous side of your personalities. The skill of learning a new language can also increase attraction and make you want to communicate more. It also sets you apart from the other women he might be dating as he will view this approach as something unique you both share.
Volunteering Together
Volunteering is a gift that keeps on giving. Choosing a location where you can both offer your services to people in need is a great way to spend time together. The experience will be memorable and it will cause you to be etched in his mind as a great catch. He might even begin to feel like "you're the one" because kindness is a beautiful trait that is hard to ignore.
Photography Excursion
An excursion like this can be fun if you have both been dating for a while and don't mind taking photos together. The focus however is to take cool photos of your surroundings and interesting items. Testing out your photography skills is better used by taking images of items in your environment. He might be tempted to make you the subject of all his photos but don't indulge that too much.
If he refuses to keep things light and fun and is fixated on you, its a sign of obsessive behavior that could manifest negatively in a relationship. Being playful and taking a few photos is fine but if he is missing the mark by focusing his lens on you and only you, it shows that he is not mature enough to be around a beautiful woman and not act a fool.
The images you both took will be the topic of many conversations in the future and help you both to relive fun memories. It might not be easy to do but ensure you get your hands on all photographs he may have taken of you both individually and together. You don't want things to get crazy later on if things do not work out.
Cooking Class or Challenge
Although you don't want to be the one picking out dates, offering to go to a cooking class or doing a challenge together is a great way to have fun and increase his attraction for you. Don't worry about being able to cook, in fact if you are great cook, go ahead and make silly mistakes so he feels like he is winning.
The same goes for a challenge or competitive activity. While it will be fun to win, be gentle with his fragile ego and and let him win a few times. This experience is something you both can talk and laugh about for weeks and directly increases his attraction for you.
Themed Costume Date
Now these events are not an everyday thing so it might be hard to find places to go. Depending on how far along you are in your dating relationship, it might be worth the effort to work with your family or friends to plan a costume themed party so you both can enjoy. The aim is to have him think someone else planned the event and you both get to attend.
Any activity with fun attached, will likely be remembered over boring engagements. So try as much as possible to keep things light and fun. Don't allow him to pull you into boring activities either. If all his attempts to keep you entertained fail, then he is definitely not the man for you.
Outdoor Adventure
I don't know about you, but I am a nature lover, so outdoor activities will get me every time. If you like being adventurous try to get him to indulge more in those types of activities. Doing hikes, nature walks, river rafting and other related activities are cool ways to enjoy the outdoors. Being out in nature should spark interesting conversations and allow you both to open up more.
If there's a personality clash when it comes to outdoor activities, decide if he's a keeper for other reasons. If these types of things are a big part of what you do for fun, then consider the long term effects of being with someone who will not enjoy those kind of experiences with you.
Art Gallery or Art Class
If there are art galleries in your locale, it would be good to pay them a visit. Get into the mind of your date to see how he perceives the world around him. You might learn something useful to determine if you want to take things further with him. During the visit to an art gallery allow him to lead the conversation. You might be tempted to talk up a storm as those environments tend to be quiet and quite dull but resist that urge. Walk along and let him do most of the talking. Viewing art is for those with high taste levels and if he cannot survive in that type of environment he might not be classy enough for you, unless that is what you are going for.
The next option is to do an art class together. This is more light and fun and offers high engagement and entertainment. This is good to do when things are fairly new and you want to enjoy some clean fun and excitement. This type of activity will show more of his personality and you will be able to gauge whether he is cool enough for you. Be sure to show more of your playful side during the art class as well. These are the things that will set you apart from the average women he might be dating.
Mystery Date
This could be borderline creepy but if you have been dating for a while and the prospects of a relationship look promising; you could plan a mystery date for him. Ensure the mystery is not a proposal though. I hope you are not the kind to propose to men.
Now this mystery date can be anything you want it to be. Get creative but ensure whatever you choose is aligned to his personality. If you are unsure of his likes and dislikes, planning a mystery date is a no go. Get to know him better before you up the ante on doing certain things. Avoid a disaster at all costs especially if you really like this one.
If all goes well a mystery date will be one of the reasons that will remind him that you are not only unique but creative and mysterious. An element of mystery is always welcome when most people are so vanilla. Avoid making your mystery date too spicy though. Until you are in a relationship, any play on sexual fantasies is off limits.
While you try to make the dating process more fun and engaging, remember it is not your duty to plan majority of the dates. He needs to be assertive in coming up with cool dates and showing you why he is a great match for you. If you find yourself doing most of the planning whenever its time to hang out, just drop him like a hot potato and move on. Effort equals interest and a man must show you why he deserves a high value woman like you.
Happy Hunting.
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